An Action Plan for a New Year and New You

I often sit and wonder how to crack a person's code. Why are they constantly engaging in detrimental behavior (lack of exercise, poor eating habits) and how do I motivate them to change. It's an area of science that scientists are well, stumped about. Why do people lose a ton of weight and then put it back on? Why does a pro athlete go through their workout sessions but end up so tempted by fried food and alcohol that they don't lose the weight they need to drop to perform at their best. SMART goals be damned, you have to first have some sort of intrinsic motivation to change or an actual push over the edge (and everyone's edge is different) to make a change and stay on course.

So where do you get this motivation? You work on your head first and foremost. And, it's my firm belief that everything you say to yourself and your goals should be deep entrenched with positivity versus negative, beating yourself up behavior (oh and try to avoid people who constantly nag you about your smoking, drinking, eating etc. because that does nothing for your self esteem; though I do think sometimes there is a place for Dr. Phil moments). The majority of people I've seen that spend long periods of time flip flopping back and forth trying to change haven't completely made up their mind that what they want (say weight loss) is actually better than the alternative (eating whatever, whenever, not exercising) and they also go about their goals with very restrictive, unrealistic expectations and then see just about anything as a setback that totally derails them.

So for instance, here's a few switches I commonly help people incorporate into their thinking pattern:

1) Instead of: I have to eat X calories per day or cut out carbohydrates to lose weight.
Try: Adding what you want to eat to your diet. Focus on all of the good food you want to incorporate into your daily nutrition
plan, and recipes you'd like to try. There are a ton of foods that are delicious and nutritious (oh and by eating more of these,
you'll displace some of those less than healthy foods).

2) Instead of: I'm injured, I'll never lose weight now, I can't walk or do aerobics.
Try: Focus on your physical therapy, getting better and a chance to get stronger.

3) Instead of: I ate a piece of cake, I went way over my calories for today, now I'll never lose weight.
Try: Wow, that tasted great! (let it go, enjoy it for what it is and eat a reasonable portion). Get used to eating enough to
satisfy that craving but not consuming the entire cup, bowl, plate or basket of food.

4) Instead of: I never stick to anything, logging my food just isn't for me.
Try: Logging my food intake is not for me, I'm going to try another approach.

Think of any goal as a road trip. If you are on your way from FL to NY I can just about guarantee you'll have to change lanes multiple times, stop for gas a few times, you may have to take a detour and you'll probably get stuck in traffic when you hit my hometown (the Washington DC area). But, never once will you question the fact that you actually will indeed make it to NY. Now, take this thinking and incorporate it into your daily life. Your road trip may not be perfect and it may include points where your speeds slows or stops but if you keep traveling, you will reach your goal.

Tackling Weight Loss in the New Year

There are two times during the year that I hear a dramatic spike in talk about calories and weight - Nov – January and pre-beach weather. The questions come late at night in atypical settings after a food & alcohol guilt sets in. First, I’m listening to a conversation about the NFL lockout and all of the sudden, just like that, there’s an abrupt change in topic:

“I heard there are some foods that help you burn fat, have you heard about this? And what do you think about carbs? Do I need to cut out all carbs to lose weight? I’ve got this belly I just can’t seem to lose.”

After a month of throwing moderation out the window and choosing the shopping mall and holiday parties over the gym, its panic time for many people. Clothes aren’t fitting, work is about to get busy and the gym will be slammed in the New Year. So what’s a person to do? Follow these steps to lasting weight loss in the New Year:

• Consider what works and what doesn’t work for you. While the sound of a brand new diet promising big results is very enticing, it may not fit your weight loss style. Likewise, if you hate the idea of attending meetings and counting the points in food, Weight Watchers is not for you. Just because it worked for your neighbor, why start something you know you’ll quit when you could design a plan that fits your needs and lifestyle (a dietitian/personal trainer combination can help you figure this out).

• Always think success. If I had a dime for every time I heard the words “I can’t lose weight” I’d be sitting outside my vacation home in Tuscany right now picking grapes. The saying “if you think you can’t, you can’t” is oh so true. I don’t care if you don’t believe yourself right now, continue positive self talk: “I can and will lose this extra weight.”

• You must combine good nutrition habits with an effective exercise routine. I have seen many people go to the gym year after year and not lose the weight. And, they are doing one or two things wrong – not exercising the right way and not watching what they eat. I don’t care if you do CrossFit every day, if you don’t change what you are eating, you’ll never get the results you are looking for.

• Surround yourself with people you want to be like. Oprah says this all the time for a reason. When it comes to weight loss, there are people who will, often unknowingly, want to sabotage your efforts. Why? Because they don’t feel good about themselves or they feel guilty so they want you to eat that plate of chili cheese fries with them. Do you have any friends that weigh you down? If so, you’ve got to watch this Oprah Show on this topic.

Weight loss can be boiled down to finding what works for you, incorporating it into you life, surrounding yourself with people who cheer you along the way and sticking with it. It isn’t magic but it is easy once you find a plan that fits your lifestyle.